An Open Letter To My Best Friend’s Future Husband

Dear Person,

I know that we aggravate each other. I know that we have an unspoken war forever going on inside our heads towards one another, always hoping that she will pick one of us over the other. But I want you to know, that is going to come to an end. I am graciously backing out of this war and taking my place where I belong. I knew this day was coming and honestly I have been dreading having to face it. You see, My best friend has always been there. In the middle of the night crying because I had no where to go, she was there. When we would go months at a time not speaking to one another, she was still there. When she calls me frantic and I drop what I am doing and get to her as fast as possible. When she doesn’t want to face her fears, I take her hand and we face them together. When I came along, I vowed to help her raise her child, and that’s what I have done, and am still doing. You see, this is our cycle, this is how we are. We are conjoined as one and we hold on to each other, because we are stronger together than apart. I want you to know, that this process, of me splitting us apart has been difficult. It started when I got married, and I knew the day would come when she got married that our “divorce” would be finalized. You are taking my place as her best friend. You are replacing me as her go to when her world is falling apart. I don’t think you realize the shoes you are about to have to fill. I want you to promise me that no matter how hard times get between you two, that you will NEVER let her down or go. I want you to promise me that you will fight for her, stand up for her, and respect her no matter what happens. No matter if your parents don’t like her. No matter if you think that all of it isn’t worth it, It is so worth it. You have no idea the gem that you are holding. I want you to be sure of who you are and what you want before you agree to any of this. I want you to be careful in your decisions, because you will be affecting my best friend. Yes, I am stepping back and giving you my place, but do not think for a second, that I will not fly off the handle at you and knock you out of my spot if you mess up. That is how this works, I am not gone forever, just merely in the shadows, I will always be there to give you advice and help you along the way, after all, she is very difficult. But I can promise you this, no one knows her like I do. It is as when we were born, God split us in half and we were destined to find each other. Honestly, she is my soul mate, not in that weird way or anything, but we get each other like no one else does. We know what the other is thinking and feeling from miles away. I am trusting you with one of the most precious things in my life. Because if she loves you, then I love you too.

An Open Letter to My Niece

Dear Person,

I want to express the amount of love that I have for you. I want you to know that you are by far one of the best things that has ever happened to me. You are still so young and have already experienced so much. I hope one day, I can love my own child as much as I love you. You set the moon in the sky baby girl. I honestly look at you like you are my own. I am always and forever going to be there for you, no matter how hard life gets, no matter how much you have messed up, I will always be there to help you through whatever it is that you need. I promise this to you. You are so bright, sweet, kind, and loving. You are so dramatic, and I swear you should have been born to me. Even your momma says you should have been my kid. I just want you to know, that the good lord placed you in my life exactly when I needed you most. I love you to the stars and beyond my little bear. You are the best niece ever!

An Open Letter To The People Who Raised The Man I Married.

Dear People,

I know, I am like a bull in the china cabinet. I just kind of bust through the doors of your home, family, and lives like I owned the place. But, I wanted to say thank you. one at a time of course. Mom I want to start with you. I know that sometimes we aggravate each other to no end. I know that there are things that you and I both do that we do not agree with. I know I married and took your baby boy away. I know that you miss him and love him dearly, but I also know that you do not resent me. I want to thank you for taking me in when I had no where to go. I want to thank you for loving me and treating me like your own. I want to thank you for raising Michael to be the man that he is, for teaching him to respect me, love me, and do anything in his power to protect me. I want to thank you for being a friend when I needed one. Thank you for being a parent when I needed one. I know that I do not tell you often enough how grateful I am for everything. But I want you to know, that everything you have done, has not gone unnoticed. I love you so much thank you mom. Dad, thank you for loving me. Thank you for showing me that not all men run away from their responsibilities. Thank you for showing me that It is possible for a man to take action and responsibility for what he has done. Thank you for being the only dad out of the three I have had to show me that you will never leave me. I know that we don’t speak much, but that is ok. It is an understood type thing we have going on. Thank you for taking me in, loving me unconditionally, and teaching your son how to fight for and never give up on a relationship. Thank you for always being there to listen and give advice. I love you so much! I want to express how grateful I am to have two such amazing wonderful in-laws like you two. Not every girl who marries into a family is as blessed as I am when it comes to you.

An Open Letter To My Little Sisters

Dear People,

I love you. First off please let me start with that. I never have been good at this whole being an older sibling thing. I have never had people look up to me and aspire to be like me. I don’t know how to be an amazing role model, I can only be me. I want you to know, that I do try very hard to be the best role model and example that I can be for you guys. I want you to know that there is not anything that you cannot come to me about. You may think that I do not know how hard it is being a teen, but trust me, I do. I know that life isn’t fair, people are cruel, and things almost never go the way we planned. But I want you to know, that its going to be ok. Life is one big storm and you have to dance in the rain. I don’t want you to be just like me, now before you go off saying how harsh that is, let me finish, I want you to be you. I want you to learn from my mistakes and heartaches. I don’t want you to have to go through all the tough times that I did. I want you to succeed and make a difference in the world. I want you to love everything about yourself, even if you absolutely detest it. I want you to be the best you that you can be. I don’t want you to be me. I love you so very much, and I hope that you realize how special and wonderful you truly are.

An Open Letter To Myself

Dear Person,

Wow… That is all I can really say. You have come so far. You still have a long way to go. You have been strong for so long and you must continue to do so. God does not give you anything you cannot handle. Please always remember that. You have to stay strong and be courageous. Life is not easy, it throws curve balls and you never know what is going to happen. I want you to always remember how special you are. I want you to remember how loved you are. I want you to always be yourself and never accept anything less. You are who you are and no one can or will ever compare to you. I know I am talking to myself, but sometimes you need a reminder. My hope is that you will see this one day while you are scrolling along and it will help you remember to keep your head above the water and fight to always achieve better than what you have. NEVER SETTLE. You have so much love to give. You have such a huge heart. You may not know this now, but you are going to be so successful, you feel like you are behind, you feel like you are a failure, you feel like you are 35, not 20. You have had to grow up quickly, its not a bad thing.. just remember at 23, JK Rowling was broke, Oprah was fired from being a news reporter, Walt Disney was filing Bankruptcy, and Tina Fey worked at the YMCA. It is ok to not be ok. It is ok to not have a plan or have everything figured out…. its called life, things happen for a reason and when life hands you lemons you throw them back at life and tell it, ” Oh HELL NO! Not today you don’t!” You are strong, Independent, and smart… you will get through this and you will come out on top.

An Open Letter To My Twin

Dear Person,

Ok, so I know I am your favorite person in the world! You are my best friend. Not the type of best friend that I have with my husband or the type of friend I have with my friends. But you are my brother. We are closer than anything in this world. You call me out on my stuff and make me own it. You have my back when I need it. You let me learn from my mistakes and you love me for me. We don’t always get along or agree. But we are thick as thieves. I know without a shadow of a doubt, you will always be there for me. You have helped me become to loving, caring, amazing person that I am. Life with you hasn’t been easy, there were times when we didn’t talk, when we swore we hated each other, but the next time we saw each other it was like nothing ever happened. Growing up we would stay up all night, we had a secret code, we were each other’s best friends, hell we still are. We aren’t twins, but people wouldn’t know that if we didn’t tell them. Sometimes I wished we were. I looked up to you. You looked up to me. We carried each other through the rough times. We never let the other down. Honestly I cannot imagine my life without you. Yes we fought a lot, bribed each other, but we also protected and loved each other. You made growing up so much easier, forgetting how rough our lives were. Not that we went without because we didn’t. But knowing I was never alone, unloved, or bored, made it easier. You are an amazing person! I am so very glad that you are mine! I love you so much, even if “you are such a bitch!” 😉

To The Man That Looks Nothing Like Me

Dear Person,

Hi, It’s your favorite person in the entire world. Well, I don’t really know that for sure, but I like to think of myself that way. I want to thank you for sticking around. Thank you for never giving up on me and always believing in me, even when I didn’t believe in myself. Thank you for stepping up to the plate and making sure that I was on the right path. You had to grow up way to fast, in a way, I am not sorry for that, you turned out to be great! But in a way, it kinda hurts my heart, knowing that you had to sacrifice so much and miss out on so much for what? To take care of your little brother and sister… See, that’s always where it gets me, you are my role model, growing up when people would ask me what I wanted, I wanted to be you. I wanted to be just like you, I wish I could have your grades, follow your footsteps, be popular, well liked, smart, independent, and just plain you. For so long my world revolved around you. You hung the moon and placed all the stars in the sky. In reality, I know you didn’t, but to me… you did… You always taught me to stand out in the crowd, to be who I am. So I did. I put you so high on a pedestal that sometimes I think you got tired of being so high off the ground. At times I’m sorry I held you to such a standard, I really pushed the pressure on you. But there are other times I’m glad I had you to be the one to fall back on. In many ways you are my rock. Thank you for teaching me, guiding me, and loving me. Your the best oldest brother anyone could ever have. Words cannot describe my admiration for you.

An Open Letter ToThe Person Who Needs This Most

Dear Person,

Life is hard. I would be lying if I said otherwise. You haven’t been dealt a fair hand. You always are expected to give up your dreams for others and it’s not fair. I wish I could storm in as a fair god mother and poof you away from everything, alas I cannot. But what I can do is be here for you always. You are by far one of the strongest people I know, even if you don’t feel It. You carry so much on your shoulders, it doesn’t go unnoticed. You are always the first one to drop everything and come running to the rescue, even when you are the one in need of rescuing. I know it’s hard to remember to take time for yourself, so I remember for you. You are so brave, strong, and courageous. It’s ok to feel like you are falling apart, sometimes you need to, all that matters is that someone is there to hold you together, and you know I always will be. I am not going to pretend to understand everything you are dealing with, I’m not going to pretend that nothing is happening, I’m not going to sit here and tell you to get over it. I am going to listen to you, I am going to be there for you, I am going to help you figure out a way to fix it. You are not alone. You always have me. This letter isn’t meant to try to fix anything. It’s meant to show you that you cannot give up. We have too many people counting on us. We have to prove all the haters wrong. We have to fight and finish what we started and we will be victorious. I know you are thinking I am crazy, in reality I am kinda crazy. But you are crazy too. You chose to have a friend like me, and when you did that, you chose to never be alone. I’ll always have your back. You are the most fabulous boss ass bitch I know! Now get up, fix your make-up and make the best out of the situation. Throw some glitter on that shit and make it sparkle! 😉

An Open Letter To The Man That Pieced Me Together Again

Dear Person,

I am broken. But unlike Humpty Dumpty, you were able to piece me together again. I am amazed at how I love you so. When we first met, I was infatuated. I was so infatuated, I was scared.. I was scared that if I loved you, you would break me too. In the past, I am always the one to get broken. But I trusted you. I had to teach myself to love you. I was so scared when I realized that you would be my future. You always had open arms when I came running back. The first time we broke apart, you needed to grow up, I’m putting it bluntly. The second time I parted from you, I needed to grow up. Then, the third time was the charm, we got married and it is happily ever after. But I don’t think you realize how much I adore you. My first love had so royally screwed me up, that I swore I would never love someone as much as him, in a way I was right, because I love you so much more than that. Looking back, I realize that he was just another frog I had to kiss to get to my prince. I know, cheesy, right? But it is so true. You never left my side no matter how nasty things got. No we don’t always get along. No I don’t always like you. But I always love you! No couple is perfect, but we are pretty close. We are more than just husband and wife, You are my very best friend. As much as you may not realize it. Every night at bedtime, its like a slumber party. We laugh, play and cut up. I’m sure our neighbors are tired of hearing my squealing and laugher. You are my person. Words can never describe how much you mean to me. You are the first person I want when anything is wrong. You never seem to be disappointed in me. You make marriage easy. You are my best friend in the entire world. You know everything. You saved me from myself. You never leave my side. When I look back, I realize just how lucky I am. I am so excited for the years to come. Thank you for piecing me back together again. I know that at the end of the day no matter what, I always have you to fall back on. You love me unconditionally and you keep me grounded. You are just so simply amazing! I am so lucky to have you!  I love you to the stars and back.

An Open Letter To The Man That Never Showed Up

Dear Person,

This is a tough one for me. Although here I am at 20, you finally showed up for me. But to your mistake, it’s a little too late. When I was five you walked out of my life. Well, I guess you cannot say walked out, you would grace me with your presence when you felt it was beneficial to you. You used me as a pawn in your sick game of life. Yes, I have some built up anger towards you. Yes, you are here “here” now, but you really aren’t even here! A real father calls their child, my number has never changed, you have always had it. Are you too ashamed of yourself to contact me? You will shoot me a text saying, “I love you, Have a good day.” But actions speak louder than a text message… There were a few times, you “showed up” to save the day, ,when I was left on the side of the interstate, but after that you crawled back into your world, leaving me out of it. You come and go as you please, like a small child on a summers day in and out of the house, until one day I will have enough. I will lock out you until dark falls and you beg to come back in, but it will be too late. But who am I kidding, I will never lock you out, as much as I try to inch and creep away from you, any ounce of attention you throw my way has me pleading for more. I am tired of you playing the victim, remember I screamed that at you while I had a brick in my hand, I threw it at you in hopes that I would somehow feel better, but I was the crazy one… I know I should forgive and forget, but somehow I cant. I like to say I have forgiven you, but deep down, I know I haven’t, because you will never learn. I will never forget, all those school functions that you missed, all the birthdays you called a couple days late, all those important moments in my life that you never even asked me about. I will never forget. You always left me wondering why you would never show up, what did I ever do to make you hate me so much, was it because you were bound to my mother financially until I aged out of her home, which was a rare occasion when we did get financial support. But paying a check every couple months isn’t what makes you a father. You like to blame my mother for your lack of relations with me, you blame me for being crazy, you blame everyone but yourself. Why would you not show up for me? Yes, my mother put you in jail a few times, but if you were acting like an idiot she would have never needed to call the cops on you in the first place. There were so many nights when I would cry to myself alone wondering why I was never good enough for you. Why would you always choose your new family over me. Not that any of this is their fault, it isn’t. You are a grown man that always put your children on the back burner, even when you didn’t have a second family to tend to. When you were alone, depressed, suicidal, I still always showed up for you! But you never showed up and stayed for me. You got so angry when I told you my brothers were giving me away, you called every day the week I told you, an you never realized, you got what you deserved. A father doesn’t come into a child’s life when it is convenient for him. A father remembers your birthday, knows your favorite color, food, what your dreams and goals are. In case you didn’t know, February 10, red, Gumbo, and one day I want to be a mother and never have to tell my children that their daddy didn’t know how to be a daddy. Yes I am angry with you, but deep down, and I sometimes question it, I still love you. Somehow I always managed to show up and stay, but you are so comfortable with showing up and walking away.